The Length Of A Lie

            I was chopping it up with one of my long time homies, just catching up.  He was telling about these dealings with a young lady he was getting to know. Apparently she needed a little "loan" to pay her "rent", but there was some "issues".  The amount of the loan was pretty extravagant for a blue-collar working guy.  My friend asked her "Why do you need this particular amount?"  She responded "It's my rent, & I need to catch up."  He remembered from when he hung out with her that she had a 1 bedroom that runs around $650.  So he asked her again & her response changed from the rent to a court appointed summons.  My friend of course became immediately skeptical & asked her to produce a copy of the summons   Now I was wondering why was he even entertaining her even asking him for a loan.  He had told me that he wanted to see her intent & if she's trying to put him in a "trick bag".  Therefore as inquisitive as he is, he decides to investigate it further by engaging her bullshit.  So as she keeps talking, her story changes 3 times.  It's almost funny & got me to thinking about the anatomy of a lie.  Particularly why some folks keep it going.


             Some old acquaintances have also kept lies going.  I was always wondering why & it came to me like this.  If you are a person who's truly making "moves" & never constantly staying in the same place some folks lie to keep up.  How many times we hear about "Keeping up with The Joneses"?  A lot of folks really can't do what you do, so they lie about it.  However if you do some basic investigation, you can figure out the truth (if there is any) from the bull.

            Another particular reason, is shame.  Some folks feel embarrassed about the truth, so in comes the lie.  That's why when you confront them with the truth, they run.  I've had people who I exposed either physically run from me or just try to act like I didn't say shit.  This of course ended our friendship or changed it dramatically.  My only question was "What would make you think that you could even lie to me like I'm some bitch ass nigga?"  It's a tad bit insulting, and very disrespectful.

        One reason why "white lies" exist is due to not hurting feelings.  A lot of folks keep lies going to "protect" friends & loved ones from brutal honesty.  This can backfire due to the fact that someone on the outside can give their opinion or be honest & shatter your loved ones' ego.  At what point does the lie that was designed to help now becomes detrimental to your relationship with this person?  So who's to say you aren't just feeding them a line of bullshit?  As a friend or relative you can be supportive, but if you let that "white lie" run amok, what will be the end result?

          Of course my final reason, is straight deception.  In this case I wasn't a person to be respected but a victim or a mark.  Now if it's like that, then you might get punched in the face or shot.  When deception is in the picture it's never going to end pretty.  I remember I was going to meet a young lady from the net & not only she lied about her appearance, but was setting up a jux (a robbery) with her peoples.  Now I'm no street dude by far, but I do have my street smarts.  The thing she didn't know is I had my peoples all through the block.  So as she saw me give pounds to folks she got nervous & bounced with her homies.  Now some of my heads reading this would have wanted me to get the heat or even pull out heat on her just on principle. I just didn't want that blood on my hands though.  A lot of the folks who carry deceptive lies are con=men.  They are experts at being totally dishonest & just telling folks what they like to hear.  However if they get found out the consequences can be dire.  So they are real convincing & work real fast. So the scam artist will lie until the consequence comes right to their jaw.  Hopefully it won't cost them their life or someone else's.


      So I guess what keeps a lie going, is the amount of bullshit you put out & want that person wants to accept.  I just feel if you are still feeding someone a line of bull & they know it.  Just end it & keep it moving.   Respect folks & hopefully they won't beat your ass at the end of the day.

P.S.  -Check out the photos of a fake fine & summons my boy got on his phone  LMAO - STOP LYING Folks.

That's just the address of a courthouse, but not an actual envelope or letter head.

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 Peep how the "summons" is written in black marker, BTW you can still see Sharpie in the pic

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 Why are you holding the letter down, also you can see the ink from the letter coming through.

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I've Been the 99%, Since 1776

 Hey Blogverse, it’s been a while since I got a little political so why not now?  A few weeks back in late Oct. 2011, me & my lady went to the Financial District of Manhattan to peep Occupy Wall St.  It was definitely an interesting sight all races, creeds, orientations, & both sexes came out to fight against injustice.  It’s lovely to see all people get on one page & really do positive things.  My lady interviewed one of the protesters who was trans-gendered.  It was interesting that he or she (hey, I don’t know how to classify that) spoke about the fact that a lot of the protesters had complaints but no actual solutions. 

        It was also interesting to see a lot of Black/African-Americans there but yet only a few had their particular causes they were championing. A lot were just with other folks getting behind their movement.  As history shows, the Black man has been fighting for true equality since being brought here as slaves.  I’ve noticed that most people think we have all that we can achieve & that’s furthest from the truth.  I’ve noticed when we talk about race & the inequality of Black folks in the realms of economics, the judicial system, & social acceptance/social respect, a lot of races get somewhat offended.  Some folks say “Oh stop playing the race card”, however other races use the “race card” all the time.  Remember when Jewish folks talk about the Holocaust, that’s their “race card.”  When some Asians talk about their suffering during World War 2 in those prison camps, that’s your “race card”.  Our period of bondage is well documented, yet a lot of races ask us to “get over it”, yet we would never dream of even trying to offend anyone about their suffering.  A lot of Black folks tend to now just see our issues in America, as somewhat normal.  Having random police stops or an offensive e-mail circulating through an office is just accepted now.  

         So when issues like police brutality & harassment, lack of quality housing, lack of jobs, & losing your homes now affect other races.  All of a sudden America is unfair.  Remember unemployment numbers were almost the same in the 80’s as they were now.  However when it was just Black families suffering, media outlets tried to make it like we were exaggerating.  Remember Ronald Reagan did nothing for the working man, at all.  Where was this outrage when the Bush family was in office.  The Liberal agenda now needs help & they come ask Black folks for help, but yet when it’s reversed.  No love at all.  How many white liberals came out in support of Amadou Diallo?  Or Sean Bell?  How about when there was evidence about the C.I.A. bringing drugs to California?  None at all.  One of the reasons why Obama isn’t that popular in 2011, is due to the legislation he passed reducing drug crime sentences.  I know quite a few folks in jail for a few years for drug possession cases who are doing unjust time.

        As a black man in America, I would like to know why gentrification is acceptable in our communities.   Why do “Sundown Towns” still exist in the U.S.?   Why is the perception of an innocent black man being shot by police seen as a tragedy & not a crime?  Now some folks bring these up as class issues.  That’s not the case, cause when was the last time a white man was “accidentally” shot by Police?  Why are corporations invested in prisons & incarceration of Black folks?  Free labor, yet this isn’t on the agenda.  It’s kind of funny to see non-blacks get the “poor ol’ nigga” treatment & then rage out when it happens.  I believe this is why the “Occupy Wall Street” has gotten so much momentum.  People forget we “Occupied Los Angeles” in 1991 after the Rodney King verdict & you saw how that went down.   

         My point is to all the supporters of Occupy Wall Street, that when it’s time for us to really put change in effect.  When Al Sharpton calls, why don’t you come out as well.  You may not like him, but last time I checked when Amadou Diallo got killed, how are you not offended by that.  When we have men unjustly incarcerated, don’t say “Oh that has nothing to do with me,”  In the end, you want people backing your argument, back my argument.

Superhero Girlfriends: Part 1 - Lois Lane Ain't Sh*t

        Well as everyone knows I’m a big comic nut, I’ve kinda always hated Lois Lane. The dynamic between her & Superman aka Clark Kent is a funny one. Lois doesn’t respect Clark Kent due to being a bit socially inept. Now the funny thing is that Clark is pretending to be this inept person to keep his true identity secret. Now what’s funny is that she gives Clark a lot of attitude, & only really respects his mind. So like the rest of the world when Superman comes along her interest is peaked on who he is & why is he able to do the things he does. So if you look at their relationship dynamic, it’s actually a “Groupie/Rapper” relationship. 


       Superman represents something that some women like having, a man that is so unique that he’s a “one of one”. Now what’s funny is that this dynamic backfires if he loses that special “ability”. Case-in-point when Clark gave up his abilities in the movie “Superman 2”. Clark reveals to Lois who he really is & gives up being Superman so they can be together. As they are going out to eat, Clark gets into a fight & loses. Lois gets real slick with her mouth & says “I wish I could be with the man that I fell in love with.” As if she was disgusted cause Clark took a loss. As a boy I was like “Yo, really?” & becoming older I saw this played out in real life. Some guys had money, a car, or a high social status. Everything is cool until something changes & next thing you know their woman is gone with the wind.

             
           Another dynamic is the attention that Superman gets from other “elite” folks. Remember even actresses, models, & other meta-humans are in competition with Lois Lane. Clark’s first love Lana Lang is a dime & actually knew all about Clark. So Lois has to be on her best game, cause Clark has options. Some of the ladies only want Superman cause he’s a meta-human, so is their intent genuine? Probably not, but Lois still has to keep herself on point.

       
          Also what’s quite interesting is that Lois Lane hates having to share Superman with the world. Now remember he’s a superhero, so his responsibility is to the world & particularly Metropolis. Therefore a few dates, movies, & even sex will be ruined by a sudden emergency. Can it become frustrating yes, but remember this is what you wanted. There’s always a trade off when you get with someone who is in the limelight. You have to accept the pros & cons of a relationship. Apparently Lois hasn’t, but hopefully in recent years she has learned her role in the relationship.

   So what have we learned, let’s look at the facts:
 1. Know if you have a “Groupie/Rapper” dynamic.

 2. What is their true motivation to being in a relationship with you? Is it due to having something special or being able to do something for them.

 3. Accept and deal with the benefits & consequences of your relationship.

 4. Know that things may not change in the immediate future or at all.

 5. There are others out there who will be with your mate at the drop of hat, So keep yourself on point.

 6. Be mindful of what your mate does & that this makes them the person you are in “love” with.

 The next chapter of Superhero Girlfriends: Part 2 - Betty Banner Down Ass Chick or Victim Of Abuse?

R&B Is Going To Get Your @$$ Kicked

I come from a time where R&B was music for couples. Around the 90’s though some things started to change. Unfortunately I feel the change wasn’t good. Particularly in the “female pandering” aspect of the music. It might be due to the feminist movement of the late 80s & 90’s in entertainment, hip-hop taking over the male music listener (particularly for young black males), or creation of sex symbols with no actual talent. R&B in a lot of ways has really fell off, particularly in the creation of good quality subject matter. Now I don’t mean all of the music is bad. There are a lot of good artists & songs. This blog is about the songs that are just not needed in R&B. If you know anyone in these so-called “love situations” your relationship is truly in trouble.

In no particular order:

1. Like A Boy - Ciara/What If A Woman - Joe So this man has hurt you so much that you wish you could switch roles. Now let’s say you do. Ladies let’s not act like y’all are always sitting at home alone. At what point is a relationship truly over. I respect the loyalty but then why not get out of the relationship. Sometimes people don’t change or that’s not the person for you. If I’ve driven you crazy to the point I would want to change my sex just to show you how I feel, let it go


2. Maybe I Deserve - Tank This sucker @$$ nigg@ here pissed me off. First off, are you really feeling remorseful cause it’s true or cause you got caught. This admission of you cheating is only to ease your guilt. Let’s really look at it this way, what if he didn’t get caught? Is a man truly sorry for a crime he will never get caught for? F*ck No!!!

3. Beyonce - Single Ladies (Put A Ring On It) How many single women you know that love this song? Let’s cut this dumb sh*t right now. Here’s the chorus: Cause if you liked it then you should have put a ring on it If you liked it then you should have put a ring on it Don’t be mad once you see that he want it If you liked it then you should have put a ring on it Bitch please, if I like you I put a date on it. You talking like that out of the gate insures you that you will still be a single lady. Do men want to get married yes, just not on the dance floor. Stop thinking that if you hold the coochie for hostage we will give into demands. Any man that has, eventually realizes it wasn’t that special to begin with.


4. Babyface - Soon As I Get Home This is one of the songs that started this crazy trend of “woman pandering”. Here’s the chorus: I give good love I’ll buy your clothes I’ll cook your dinner too Soon as I get home from work I’ll pay your rent Your faithful lover Soon as I get home, soon as I get home from work Girl, I’ll treat you right And I’ll never lie For all that it’s worth I give good love (good love, good love, good love, good love) So he’s got all this time to do this & go to work. GTFOH!!! If you also look at the way it’s structured, this is more of a proposition than courting. He sounds like a car salesman. Also he said “I’ll Never LIE” that’s a lie in itself. A man who hasn’t lied to a woman, isn’t being real. Not a deceptive lie, but to save a woman’s self-esteem you have. Sucker @$$ motherf*cker (Please note the woman Babyface was married to when he wrote this is now with Eddie Murphy, PAYBACK!!)

5, TLC - Scrubs The funny thing is I had liked this group up til then. I didn’t take the song personal, but they through a lot of regular dudes under the bus. What’s funny is that in interviews they said “We aren’t talking about all men” trying to clean it up, but yet it wasn’t included in the song lyrics. To me this was ammo for chicken heads who don’t have their life together to talk a whole bunch of garbage about men. Shoutout to the Sporty Thieves for making No Pigeons as a response to No Scrubs.

6. Trey Songz - Can’t Help But Wait This dude here is actually a stalker. Ladies I know some of y’all like to keep a stalker around for your ego. Now if you are unhappy in your relationship, you should not confide in a man that is trying to bone you. He clearly doesn’t care that you are in one, but he will “wait”. What single man you know is waiting for a woman to get out of her relationship. Now if I’m the boyfriend of this young lady, yeah there’s going to be some furniture-moving & dish throwing. It’s disrespectful to even associate with this man, knowing his intent.


   Yeah you play these songs & I see trouble on the horizon for your relationship. Thees situations are of course exaggerated. However we shouldn’t encourage it either. There are tons more in all genres, but particularly for R&B it’s about love & relationships. So let’s actually talk about love & relationships.

Politiks With Logik - Pilot Episode

The 8 Problems With The WNBA

     



Well since I can’t talk about the NBA due to lockout let’s focus on who’s currently balling, the WNBA. I’m glad that the women are getting shine in the pro ranks & that women don’t have to go overseas to go pro. However the marketing of the WNBA really sucks. I mean as a basketball fan I’m not motivated to see the game, yet when it’s a women’s college game I can actually watch that. So it’s not necessarily the game but how it’s marketed to a fan, particularly a male fan. I will list the reasons of why they are having problems.

 1. Too much feminism in the commercials & marketing - It’s been 10 years since the WNBA started, can you finally stop the “We Got Next” slogan. That slogan comes across saying sub-consciously that “Men, you don’t like basketball unless you watch us.” It’s a bit rude trying to browbeat male basketball fans into watching. Remember your season runs during the summer & most of us men are running around outside. I think the feminists in the marketing department are killing their male market share. We may not purchase stuff, but we are the motivating sports fan in most households. Give us our respect

 2. Make a sure larger than a 1X - I remember being in the NBA store & looking at a New York Liberty T-shirt, & nothing was larger than a 1x. I’m like damn cause I’m a big Theresa Weatherspoon fan. You want to attract more male fans, but the gear is only for small children. I’ve seen the pics of men wearing WNBA fashion & it’s tight as hell (tight like spandex). Male basketball fans are of all sizes, so at least make some decent sized T-shirts & hats.

 3. Find a league ambassador that’s attractive - Yes this sounds trivial & somewhat sexist however you are trying to deal with a male demographic. So you will have to deal with our lack of attention. Manly looking women don’t keep our attention so even though they are the stars we are like “ugh”. Remember Kobe Bryant is a great player but a lot of women are attracted to him as well. This helps in selling the NBA to women. How many casual female fans love Kobe Bryant? A whole damn lot. You need to use the same tactic for the casual male WNBA fan. At least it would be great for promoting the league.

 4. Lower The Rims - Dunks should not be a rarity. You can at least lower the rims by about 6 to 8 inches. What would be better than a WNBA dunkface poster? I think the ability that anyone can get potentially embarrassed would greatly help the sport.

 5. More critical commentary - The commentators are too soft in the WNBA. The great thing about Charles Barkley is that he’s critical of players, coaches, & the refs. A lot of the experts & commentators don’t real get critical of players, coaches, or player’s execution during plays. It makes it feel like there’s no effort for the player’s to become better, especially the teams that have losing records.

 6. Where Are You? - During the off-season you never see any of the WNBA players except for being at a Women’s NCAA game or an NBA game. You don’t see them at other events or even trying to be more public. Hey when Michael Jordan was retired you would still see ESPN report about him playing baseball or playing golf. Don’t just be about women’s basketball, be about basketball period.

 7. Your Ambassador Should Be Lively - It’s funny that the NBA has had various personalities that have represented & that has helped it. You have players like Dennis Rodman, Charles Barkley, Kobe Bryant, Magic Johnson, & of course Shaquille O’Neal. Even Kareem Abdul-Jabbar did a few movies, particularly Airplane 2 where he played a pilot who denied he was Kareem. Real funny stuff, that’s classic stuff. Kareem to this day comes across serious & somewhat shunning the limelight, but he still has personality.

 8. Video Games - Yeah y’all need to work out something with EA Sports. I mean 10 years & y’all are still only on NBA Jam or NBA Street: Homecourt. Come on really. Remember you are trying to get into the male market share, this is the way.

 Now the commissioner of the WNBA has all rights to ignore this however let’s look at your league. Some of your smaller market teams need to have sponsors on their jerseys now. That’s sad, cause they look like rec league tournament jerseys now. I’m just speaking as a male fan who can’t identify with the league. Now if y’all trying to treat the league like the Oxygen Network, then hey. I’m trying to help the league get your money.

Am I Creepy Or Misunderstood?

If you ever noticed the word creepy is only applied to men by women.  Especially in a social setting.  I had some women to give me an understanding of what they consider “creepy” in a man.  Some of the reasons that my friends explained to me confused me for just a bit.  Now the most extreme case of a guy being creepy is that he follows around a woman he doesn’t know & is just comfortable looking and never actually talking to her.  So I understand that because I’ve seen enough stalker-boyfriend movies to know that kind of “creep”.  Now ladies I know some of the guys become quiet insistent even though you told them no.  That type of guy is way past “creepy” and become straight up Crazy.  My homegirl Charlotte had a run-in with a guy who went from creepy to crazy in a matter of seconds.  So the word “creepy” does fit some men in those extreme cases.

        Ladies y’all sometimes unjustly throw that word around in order to make a guy look bad.  Sometimes a man can just feel a bit awkward on approach, and when he speaks it may sound a bit crazy.  The funny thing is not all ladies are actually clear on not being interested.  What about the in-between guys?  Many men (if not all) have been the “creepy” guy.  Especially with a woman you’ve found attractive, but maybe you are doubting your approach or maybe your game just wasn’t strong.  If I get caught staring doesn’t mean I want to do you harm.  The funny thing is not all ladies are actually clear on not being interested.  If you ignore me in a social setting, I might think I didn’t get your full attention.  It can also can come off rude if you don’t at least acknowledge our presence, so at least say no thanks.  I feel that should be a must if his approach was at least polite.  I know sometimes a young lady wasn’t feeling me but I didn’t get a reason.  Instead of being direct, most hope I would get the “hint” like I’m Scooby-Doo.  The thing is women give terrible hints.  I know a direct person like myself will still text or call if I I don’t know your status.  As a man I do have a right to be somewhat “creepy” if I don’t know what’s the actual problem.  That can be quite rude, & yet when she tells other people what happened I look like the “creep”.  So if we are having a misunderstanding then you should take time to be honest and clear it up before it gets nasty.

       As an aggressive old-school man in this era, would my direct approach come across as creepy?  Is there so much indirect contact (i.e. text, e-mail, instant message, etc.) that now if I take the initiative to say hello it would scare a woman?  I believe in some level of routine contact, maybe not daily or hourly.  There should be at least a set amount of time I can hang or have a convo with you.   Now if you aren’t interested you have all rights not to be, just let me know.  

       Now for the nutty-buddies fellas that are out there, due remember that it’s never that serious.  Stalking a chick is just real wack & a waste of energy & time.  Remember some ladies want a man who’s checking in on them 24/7 take time to find em.  I know who you creepy dudes are, cause you always drive a van & have duct tape ready. 

Bad Positives/Good Negatives

Not every negative is a bad thing.  Here are some things that we don't realize are good or bad.

Good Negatives: Golf Score, Loan Interest, The U.S. Deficit, STD Result

Bad Positives: AIDS Test Results, Pregnancy (Under the wrong circumstances), Cancer Diagnostic

A Good Man....

Just something I composed while listening to Rapheal Saadiq's song "Good Man"

A good man...

...will rub your feet, even though you haven't been to the spa or nail shop in 3 weeks

...does play video games.

...loves you even when he can't stand you.

...always gives guidance, and knows you are only going to listen to half of it.

...has told his friends you are a good chick, a little crazy but a good woman nonetheless.

...will still look at other women, he's still a good man.

...has the ability to pull you out of your own bullshit.

...knows he can't ever be cool with your girlfriends, cause those b*tches can't be trusted.

...needs space, it's not personal just give me time to breathe.

...helps raise other good men.

...shows affection, sometimes not all the times you want it though.

...knows the difference between love & infatuation.

...is honest with you, even to the point you could hate what I say.

...is strong with his mind, not his hands.

...doesn't expect to get points for being a good man, he just is.

The Disenfranchisement of the Hip-Hopper By Simone Johnson

No fancy intro.  No dope one-liner.  Just one major thought: as a whole, I don’t feel today’s hip-hop.  I struggled trying to figure out why my heart breaks when I hear the radio or why my fingers aren’t itching to turn the radio on at all.  Well…they do itch at the same time everyday: old school at noon.   I don’t feel like hip-hop today is wack and I don’t feel like its garbage.  I feel disenfranchised from it.  Yes, disenfranchised.  But the question is, why?

     I am a part of the first generation of hip-hoppers.  The generation that I belong to was not only the first to be exposed to hip-hop, we defined hip-hop.  We determined what were the best qualities to be considered a dope emcee (I say flow, lyrical skill and delivery). We demanded it be played on the radio.  We pushed for soft, racist television stations to play the videos on television.    We are the ones who said that we need bigger venues.  We saw the dollar signs long before any corporation.   Shit, we are the ones that started the most heated conversation in hip-hop: Who are your top 5 emcees?  Having been a part of so much of this billion dollar genre of music since its inception, it’s just fucked up to feel disenfranchised from it.  

     I like Wiz Khalifa on some songs but not as a whole.  I like think Nicki Minaj has lyrical skills but her album is garbage to me.  I understand the craze over Tyler but his music ain’t for me.  I am a hater.  I am a dick rider.  I am a follower.  I’m a backpacker.  Ehhh.  It’s all too much.  Disenfranchisement equates to being voiceless, voteless.  I ain’t vote for all of my favorite emcees to only be played for 40 minutes at noon.  I didn’t ask to not be represented on the radio in 2011.  I cannot relate to most of these emcees nowadays because I am from a different age group.  In layman's terms, I'm old.  I find that in hip-hop there is this unwritten and ever so omnipresent grandfather clause.  Once your favorite emcee grandfathers out of hip-hop, they are has-beens.  And once you, the fan, reach a certain age, you too are a has-been.  I had a dude tell me, in his frustrated state of rejection, that I was immature because I still listened to hip-hop (yes, yes he did) and that if I gave him a chance he would teach me how to grow up and expose me to jazz music. Sidebar: unbeknownst to his lil self my sister and I are daughters of a jazz musician (Uh, click click boom?  Yes.  Boom indeed).  In one of D-Nice’s very well executed True Hip-Hop story video interviews with DoItAll (one half of Lords of The Underground), DoItAll said that just because he has gotten older, he still loves hip-hop.  He said what I have been saying for a long time “no one is making adult contemporary hip-hop”.  Ahhhh.  Thus the gnawing feeling of disenfranchisement.  

     I blame us.  The 1st generation of hip-hoppers, now that we are in the grandfather group, don’t support our favorite emcees when they have grandfathered, unwillingly, out of hip-hop.  Would you purchase a new Lords of The Underground album today?  How many of you got Naughty By Nature's download they put out last year?  (Shit was proper, word).  Precisely my point.  With the exception of Jay-Z and a sexy LL Cool J single, we too are falling victim to seeing older emcees as dinosaurs.  Which is just weird to me because that would make all of us dinosaurs.  If Chubb Rock is "too old" to make albums, then ain't we too old to listen to Nicki Minaj or Lil Wayne or Curren$y?

     I won't subscribe to the idea that we are too old.  We are in our late 20's to early to mid 40's.  That ain't old is it?  I think a lot of younger emcees are talented but their music doesn't resonate within me.  Not because I miss the days of yore but because I don't know their experiences.  I had different experiences when I was their age.   I do feel that they have a right to be here in this space called hip-hop.  There is something for everybody.  Hip-Hop fans are the only fans that refuse to allow it to branch off and create minature lanes within itself.  I think that we need to be cool with creating sub-genres for hip-hop.  Hip-Pop (a la Nicki Minaj, Black Eyed Peas, etc)  Hip-Hop Grunge (Tyler, Moruf, Mickey Factz and all other young angry, dare-to-be different emcees) There are always sub-genres of music that submerge.  Grunge came out of 80's metal.  Where would Nirvana be had Motley Crue or Black Sabbath not existed?  In the immortal words of Mekhi Pfifer in Paid in Full as he claps his hands a la Kevin Hart style "everybody eats".

     I am probably just grasping at straws here but I need to find a way to not feel disenfranchised.  I don't think its fair that Naughty By Nature and the Beatnuts can only tour and do old music.  Don't you like new fresh music?  I know I do.  And by the way, I am a huge Curren$y fan.  So I am not a hater.  I do like some shit out there.  As a whole tho...?  I stand firm in saying nope, I can't relate.  I don't wanna be voted off or out of hip-hop.  I still need to feel like my heart and soul is being listened to by emcees who are my age and still love hip-hop.  It is my love.  It is the music of my generation.  It is what makes me part of who I am.  The 1st generation of hip-hoppers don't wanna be left out or forgotten like some old toy under a bunkbed.  We just want to have music for us.  Just because we are older it doesn't mean we don't love hip-hop anymore.  We probably love it now more than ever because of the memories we have.  And if nothing else, hip-hop has saved me from myself and so many of us from ourselves more times than Lupe can count.  And that should account for something.  Right?

By Simone Johnson (c) 2011

I reposted this cause I enjoy hip-hop music immensely.  As an older fan now I look for more  in artists & their music.  So being that I was fortunate enough to read this note I just had to share the viewpoints.

This is why you need to respect the Beginning of Mankind - Africa

Does A Man Really Want A Bi-Female?

        What goes on y'all.  I was reading a story in the New York Post (yeah I know).  The story 

was about the fact that Busta Rhymes' ex-girlfriend was cut off after "becoming" a 

lesbian.   I was thinking about this and showed me something.  Can a guy really keep a 

woman who is "bi".  I don't think so because she will never really be satisfied with just 

you alone.  Now as a man you have to make a decision of if you will let your woman sleep 

with other women or if you can "share" your woman with a lady who calls her "wifey".   

That may  not only be a blow to a man's ego but, does conducting a relationship 

while being monogamous considered cheating.  

  

      If the gentleman doesn't believe in that, should he keep the woman around?  I cite the 

song "Ms. Fat Booty" by Mos Def, in which he finds out the woman who he had relationship 

with now was doing lesbian acts and he was disgusted.   Some men have taken advantage of 

their woman being "bi" and now invite others to their bed.  I feel that is tainting your bed 

with bad karma.   I've heard of stories of "bi-women"  who got another female to sleep with 

themselves and their man.  Next thing you know a break-up because of him sleeping with 

the other female without the girlfriend.   On the flipside of that is a man turns his girl onto 

females, now she ends up dealing with females full-time.   So I look at it in this way if there's 

an emotional tie, does a man want a "bi" female?  However I'm not a hater if 2 "bi" women 

want to get at me.  Why you ask, cause there's no emotional tie, so no drama afterwards.

Original Draft written July 4th, 2006

            Now for me I've dealt with "bi-sexual" women & it was interesting.  Some talked that 


sharing stuff but we weren't serious, so it never got personal.  However if the interest is 


much deeper, that crazy ass bi talk is out of the window. I respect anyone who can be 


monogamous with someone who has an alternative lifestyle & isn't tempted to step outside 


of their relationship.I just wonder what's the limits, especially if a 3rd party is involved?  


Cause I've heard of the"Drew Barrymore" rules, which make no sense.  So where do you 


draw the line?  It's hardenough to deal with 1 person, but imagine two.  Damn 

Having My Baby, You Think You Know....But You Have No Idea

Hey Blogverse what's goin' on. I was thinking about the baby-momma, baby daddy situation. It makes me wonder that is a woman really ready to have my child. Does she really know what it means when you have my child? It's an understanding that my son wearing make-up is cause for some concern. Also if my daughter can shake her ass, but not do her ABC's is tacky. For me it means we will probably have a lifetime bond whether good or bad. It means if you don't like my parents or family, you will be forced to deal with them.


             I'm the type of guy who's hands on with my parenting. Don't think that for a second it will obligate me as a parent to stay with you. It's about the child, so no need to be selfish and hold my child hostage. I'm a good dude, but don't tolerate b.s. and I'm up on my family laws if we go that route. I think a lot of men don't set these kinds of standards. This is why a lot of them learn that after the child, for me I learned a little before I was even looking at a sonagram. I have a lot of knowledge to share, but I won't lose my mind doing it. So for all the vindicitive wannabe baby mommas, Watch out for me!!!

As a favorite emcee of mine says: "Do you got what it takes, to take what I got?"-  J-Live


Originally drafted Feb. 13, 2007

"Fresh" From A Distance (Myspace Re-Post)

         Whassup blogverse.   I was thinking quite recently about some of the ladies I have the pleasure (& displeasure) of speaking to online.  One thing I've seen that is consistent, is that ladies who are long distance are way more friendly.  I've pondered a few reasons why: 1) The distance is a safe barrier.  2) Things can progress without pressure of sex or being physical.  3) You can pretty much say what you want, and no one is the wiser.   So as we see with all these new social networking sites like Myspace, Facebook, Blackplanet, and my funny fave Fullfiggas.com. 

             

         There's a lot more flirting, and sometimes outright booty flashing.  Some of these sites have allowed people to do or say what they feel can attract a person to them.  I've seen some interesting photos from ladies, that make me say whoa.  But when I flirt with intent, some flirt back while others try to play real serious.  Should I really take you seriously with a whole "booty" portfolio.  Now let's say we have what it takes to meet.  Do things change when I get off the plane, bus, car, or train?? Cause you was talkin' greasy to get my attention.   I mean it's cool to flirt to a point.  But then it gets lame if nothing is really going to happen.  Is it just a means to get attention and that's all.  If so can you knock it if a guy puts a "pee-pee" pic in your inbox.  He's just trying to get noticed just like you. 

            

         I also ask the question, is the woman as "friendly" with local men?  Cause for me, in NYC the sistas are real uptight with meeting.   Even though you might have seen a pic with their "boobies" out.  They will act shy (LOL).   Is that just eye candy to get me to your page or are you a freak lady?  Stop frontin' if you aren't and let the man appreciate who you really are.  You know us men will say some outlandish sh*t, especially on the net cause there's no real consequence.   So the 

point I'm making is this, are you just as friendly in person or just on the keyboard.

(Original Draft Jan. 11, 2008)

Substitution Jutsu (Myspace Re-Post)

I've notice a particular trend by some single ladies out there.  Some of my fellas may agree that they may date a woman for a particular amount of time.  All of a sudden she just falls off,  you aren't angry just confused why.  If you do get in contact with her,  you find out she's either gotten back with her ex or started dating someone she spoke to before she met you.   I call this the "substitution jutsu".  The term comes from the animated Naruto series on the  Cartoon Network.   Fellas be aware, most of the time you are just a temporary fix.   She's just killing time if she isn't really doing much socially.  So you might get caught up into taking her out or trying to get close.  However some ladies may say "I'm only looking for friends" if that's the case, go dutch.  So if she expects to pay like it's a date and cops an attitude.  Don't stress cause she's only a "friend".  Ladies like attention, even from guys they don't like.   Also make sure you engage her in convo about you and her.  Always know where you stand.  Is this the way of a gentleman, of course not.   But it does help weed out the bullshit.    Remember fellas, money you can get back, time you can't.


(Originally drafted Feb. 11, 2008)

Friend Or Acquaintance?

This blog is makes me wonder about how women truly see their male "friends".  As y'all know I really don't see men & women being friends like that unless under certain circumstances.  The thing is what if a woman you used to talk to or date ends up just being cool.  Now being that things have become platonic, y'all should be able to support each other in new relationships.  This would be the "logical" step, however I've noticed with some "friends" that this is the very opposite.  Some have wanted to keep tabs for their own particular reasons, some might be still interested.  Others might be a little jealous cause I have someone I care about.  The thing is I'm not going to treat anyone different due to being in a relationship.  Everyone knows I'm a music head, so when I expect support with an endeavor, why give me a bogus reason for not supporting?  Unless you was never really into me as a whole person.  Then for the most part you are an acquaintance, so we are only cool to a point.  Having deep conversations about fam & life is really not needed. I guess for myself I forgot not everyone is genuine on here even though we chop it up regularly?   I know why that is though, & it just shows some ladies illogical minds.   Just be genuine with me, I won't pass judgment I just might give you the sideways face though.

The Spoiler Alert

          Whassup people.  Just recently I got into an indirect argument with a female.  Apparently I can be harsh with my opinions, even though it's an opinion.  Now the thing about me is, I can talk about anyone yet still be cool with them if I know their true character.  A couple of my friends and I mean really good friends are pathological liars.  Does this mean I hate them, not at all.  I just know that what they say is 50% bullshit or hyped-up nonsense.  So I respect everyone no matter what your true character is.  One thing I know is that we all have character flaws but it doesn't mean we can't be cool.  There is a young lady that I know, who's cool but she is a bit "fast".  Apparently she liked one of my homies & my homie asked about her.  Now being that I know her past somewhat should I spare him the news or be honest?  A friend of mine suggested I stay out of it, but then if my homie asks me about her can I really say nothing?  So I ended up letting him know the deal & so he knew how to act accordingly.  Long story short she finds out I said something & feels some type-of-way around me now.  

         So things turned out well, but  when I was having a conversation with other folks.  The debate came up if you should be honest or leave well enough alone.  Anyone who knows me knows I don't support what I call "janky behavior".  It's when a person is being flaky, even though others know their true nature.  Would I be the villain if I spoil a potential relationship?  Even if it's founded on a potential lie?  I only wanted my friend to know what he's getting into before he founds out the hard way.  Now I know some ladies like to run from their "skankish" behavior & think it disappears cause they don't talk about it.  Most men have a particular image of their wife, girl, or female they are dating & women don't want to shatter that image because of our fragile egos.  However it doesn't mean a man can't handle it, he just may have a hard time accepting it.  So the question is: Is this young lady mad at me for being honest, or for potentially embarrassing her?   The moral of the story is be careful who you lie to, someone might just blow up your spot. BOOM!!!


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