As I write this, I've noticed that women are coming together like never before. There is a "sisterhood" now being established by women of all creeds, races, & even religions. I'm guessing that some ladies have gotten tired of not having control over their lives so there is camaraderie in feeling like you have been a victim. This however has created a problem for men, relationships, & their relationships with their children.
Ladies I respect unity, but you can't unite with everyone. A lot of women take up causes due to empathy, however don't realize some women make their own trouble. Case in point, remember the girl who received the "Bus Driver Uppercut", a lot of ladies believe she shouldn't have gotten hit. It's only based off the understanding that "A man should never hit a woman". What about "A woman should never put her hands on a man unless in defense of herself." I'm guessing some ladies who have been in abusive relationships relate to this young woman getting hit & thrown off the bus. But let's look at it this way, she escalated the conflict & for what. It was cause the driver made a few funny jokes & she felt a certain type of way. What made her feel she could put her hands on dude? I'm guessing some women feel they should have the right to hit a man, but beware not all men hold back cause you are a female. I mention that to say not every woman is your sister. Some ladies are making sure you don't "come up" before them. How many times have you heard or said yourself "Oh this bitch think she cute..." or "Who the fuck she think she is?" Don't always assume that every female is on your side or is the victim. I've seen this "Sisterhood Of Failure" dynamic exhibited in movies, tv, & the news.
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Now I don't have an issue with a sister dating a white dude, as long as it's for genuine reasons. If you still stuck in the "slave, white-daddy" syndrome STOP READING NOW!!! If you think things are better with a white guy all the time read THIS & you tell me.
To me true sisterhood not only helps, but it's honest help. It's not playing to your ego to tell you what you want to hear, like R&B music on the radio. It's your mom telling you to not wear that tight skirt out tonight or your girlfriend telling you that you are wrong for that. I guess folks are too broken to hear the truth nowadays cause you run from it. You have to pick & choose who to get wisdom from, not all of general women wisdom comes from women either. Men (i.e. Daddy, Uncle Jerome, & Grandpa Jackie) can also put you onto good advice. I've talked to friends who have listened to me & their relationships grow, others not so much.
So here are some basic rules to when you should & should not listen:
1. If the person giving advice, isn't even following their own advice, - IGNORE IT!!
2. If your girlfriend has no man, or has a lot of temporary d*ck, Ignore this chick, cause any woman can get some, The challenge is keeping a man interested past his penis.
3. Be aware of "pity parties". The "woe is me" clan is always looking for new members, especially if you had a bad breakup or some type of relationship stress. Do remember in Waiting To Exhale only one woman had a man in the end. The rest of those chicks was lonely.
4. Not every woman is your sister, some of these folks are scheming to get yours or use you. How many of your so-called friends tried to ask about your ex? That wasn't cause it was Christmas, she was trying to get it in.
5. Not all woman deserve sympathy. Peep a situation from all angles. Don't always assume she's the victim. Some ladies got slapped cause that baby wasn't their husbands. Peep the movie "Kill Bill" to see what I'm talking.
6. Change your circle if they aren't growing with you. No need to keep friends who don't respect your growth.
There is too much bad advice being given. Why you ask? It's cause if women get themselves together they stop listening to TV, music, & movies in how they should look, act, and think.
