Dear Whomever

It seems that for a lot of people, when I settled down people were excited & happy.  I was glad to be able to finally make things work for me and my shorty.  Now I didn't start changing up & being shady towards my female friends cause I have a girl. I mean for some all we were was going to be friends (Some didn't let me in on that, but it's cool). For others we were in what I call "Social Limbo", it's a state of getting to know each other/she's not sure of what to make of it.  The worst part is that I'm not benefiting from this other than dragged out conversations. Now if you know me already I'm extremely blunt but also not up for waiting for a date.  So yes when I got into a relationship, were you really expecting an update? Or for me to wait on your indecisiveness to end? As the man I am, I'm not up for playing games or bullshitting.  I know some of y'all were also throwing salt at my girl. I got one message that said my girl looked like a chick off the Cooking Network. Maaaan listen, my girl is cute & sexy, in no way did she even resemble this bitch on the show.  That was a slick diss I dismissed cause I didn't want to fuck up my good vibe but as I thought about it, it pissed me off.  Now the reason why I don't talk about my girl like that, cause what do you really want to know?  I mean she makes me happy, so that should be your biggest concern.  If you are still attracted to me I understand, but don't try to throw negative energy out of spite or envy.  It will block your blessing, & then you will truly miss out.  Please note, if I ask you to hang out, I really mean to hang.  I'm just that effin' cool.  Woo-Sah & I'm gone

+ or - Figure Out Where You Stand

Whassup people, as I sit here & write.  I've noticed that some people who are dating or in the "getting to know you" stage are complaining quite a bit on Facebook, Twitter, Tagged etc.  I think some people don't realize if they truly belong in a relationship or if they are just lonely.  A lot of people are in relationship for the sake of having a relationship.  It's kinda sad, because it shows a level insecurity.  Who's to say that you are supposed to be in one, or that you have enough selflessness in your character to do so. Remember you have to be thoughtful and sometimes take yourself out of first-person & think about your mate.  Here are some questions you can ask yourself to see if you are possibly an asset or liability:

1) What can I offer besides companionship?

2) If sex wasn't on the table, would this person still want to be with me?

3) Do I listen to my mate or just wait for my turn to talk?

4) Am I an actual fun person to be around when it's not time to be intimate?

5) Do I love myself?

6) How can I make my mate a better person & in turn myself a better person?

7) Can I be 100% honest, & respect my mate's honesty (even if it's negative)?

8) Did I really move on from my last relationship & am I ready for a new one?

9) Does my mate have a valid point when we argue?

10) Is change difficult for me?

11) Am I a glorified jump-off?

I think being honest with yourself and just speaking with your boo, mate, sweetie, etc. is key.  However respect & listen to what they say.  You might find out y'all need to break and just be friends or be nothing.  At least you will be honest with each other