If you ever noticed the word creepy is only applied to men by women. Especially in a social setting. I had some women to give me an understanding of what they consider “creepy” in a man. Some of the reasons that my friends explained to me confused me for just a bit. Now the most extreme case of a guy being creepy is that he follows around a woman he doesn’t know & is just comfortable looking and never actually talking to her. So I understand that because I’ve seen enough stalker-boyfriend movies to know that kind of “creep”. Now ladies I know some of the guys become quiet insistent even though you told them no. That type of guy is way past “creepy” and become straight up Crazy. My homegirl Charlotte had a run-in with a guy who went from creepy to crazy in a matter of seconds. So the word “creepy” does fit some men in those extreme cases.
Ladies y’all sometimes unjustly throw that word around in order to make a guy look bad. Sometimes a man can just feel a bit awkward on approach, and when he speaks it may sound a bit crazy. The funny thing is not all ladies are actually clear on not being interested. What about the in-between guys? Many men (if not all) have been the “creepy” guy. Especially with a woman you’ve found attractive, but maybe you are doubting your approach or maybe your game just wasn’t strong. If I get caught staring doesn’t mean I want to do you harm. The funny thing is not all ladies are actually clear on not being interested. If you ignore me in a social setting, I might think I didn’t get your full attention. It can also can come off rude if you don’t at least acknowledge our presence, so at least say no thanks. I feel that should be a must if his approach was at least polite. I know sometimes a young lady wasn’t feeling me but I didn’t get a reason. Instead of being direct, most hope I would get the “hint” like I’m Scooby-Doo. The thing is women give terrible hints. I know a direct person like myself will still text or call if I I don’t know your status. As a man I do have a right to be somewhat “creepy” if I don’t know what’s the actual problem. That can be quite rude, & yet when she tells other people what happened I look like the “creep”. So if we are having a misunderstanding then you should take time to be honest and clear it up before it gets nasty.
As an aggressive old-school man in this era, would my direct approach come across as creepy? Is there so much indirect contact (i.e. text, e-mail, instant message, etc.) that now if I take the initiative to say hello it would scare a woman? I believe in some level of routine contact, maybe not daily or hourly. There should be at least a set amount of time I can hang or have a convo with you. Now if you aren’t interested you have all rights not to be, just let me know.
Now for the nutty-buddies fellas that are out there, due remember that it’s never that serious. Stalking a chick is just real wack & a waste of energy & time. Remember some ladies want a man who’s checking in on them 24/7 take time to find em. I know who you creepy dudes are, cause you always drive a van & have duct tape ready.
