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Does A Man Really Want A Bi-Female?

        What goes on y'all.  I was reading a story in the New York Post (yeah I know).  The story 

was about the fact that Busta Rhymes' ex-girlfriend was cut off after "becoming" a 

lesbian.   I was thinking about this and showed me something.  Can a guy really keep a 

woman who is "bi".  I don't think so because she will never really be satisfied with just 

you alone.  Now as a man you have to make a decision of if you will let your woman sleep 

with other women or if you can "share" your woman with a lady who calls her "wifey".   

That may  not only be a blow to a man's ego but, does conducting a relationship 

while being monogamous considered cheating.  

  

      If the gentleman doesn't believe in that, should he keep the woman around?  I cite the 

song "Ms. Fat Booty" by Mos Def, in which he finds out the woman who he had relationship 

with now was doing lesbian acts and he was disgusted.   Some men have taken advantage of 

their woman being "bi" and now invite others to their bed.  I feel that is tainting your bed 

with bad karma.   I've heard of stories of "bi-women"  who got another female to sleep with 

themselves and their man.  Next thing you know a break-up because of him sleeping with 

the other female without the girlfriend.   On the flipside of that is a man turns his girl onto 

females, now she ends up dealing with females full-time.   So I look at it in this way if there's 

an emotional tie, does a man want a "bi" female?  However I'm not a hater if 2 "bi" women 

want to get at me.  Why you ask, cause there's no emotional tie, so no drama afterwards.

Original Draft written July 4th, 2006

            Now for me I've dealt with "bi-sexual" women & it was interesting.  Some talked that 


sharing stuff but we weren't serious, so it never got personal.  However if the interest is 


much deeper, that crazy ass bi talk is out of the window. I respect anyone who can be 


monogamous with someone who has an alternative lifestyle & isn't tempted to step outside 


of their relationship.I just wonder what's the limits, especially if a 3rd party is involved?  


Cause I've heard of the"Drew Barrymore" rules, which make no sense.  So where do you 


draw the line?  It's hardenough to deal with 1 person, but imagine two.  Damn 

Having My Baby, You Think You Know....But You Have No Idea

Hey Blogverse what's goin' on. I was thinking about the baby-momma, baby daddy situation. It makes me wonder that is a woman really ready to have my child. Does she really know what it means when you have my child? It's an understanding that my son wearing make-up is cause for some concern. Also if my daughter can shake her ass, but not do her ABC's is tacky. For me it means we will probably have a lifetime bond whether good or bad. It means if you don't like my parents or family, you will be forced to deal with them.


             I'm the type of guy who's hands on with my parenting. Don't think that for a second it will obligate me as a parent to stay with you. It's about the child, so no need to be selfish and hold my child hostage. I'm a good dude, but don't tolerate b.s. and I'm up on my family laws if we go that route. I think a lot of men don't set these kinds of standards. This is why a lot of them learn that after the child, for me I learned a little before I was even looking at a sonagram. I have a lot of knowledge to share, but I won't lose my mind doing it. So for all the vindicitive wannabe baby mommas, Watch out for me!!!

As a favorite emcee of mine says: "Do you got what it takes, to take what I got?"-  J-Live


Originally drafted Feb. 13, 2007

"Fresh" From A Distance (Myspace Re-Post)

         Whassup blogverse.   I was thinking quite recently about some of the ladies I have the pleasure (& displeasure) of speaking to online.  One thing I've seen that is consistent, is that ladies who are long distance are way more friendly.  I've pondered a few reasons why: 1) The distance is a safe barrier.  2) Things can progress without pressure of sex or being physical.  3) You can pretty much say what you want, and no one is the wiser.   So as we see with all these new social networking sites like Myspace, Facebook, Blackplanet, and my funny fave Fullfiggas.com. 

             

         There's a lot more flirting, and sometimes outright booty flashing.  Some of these sites have allowed people to do or say what they feel can attract a person to them.  I've seen some interesting photos from ladies, that make me say whoa.  But when I flirt with intent, some flirt back while others try to play real serious.  Should I really take you seriously with a whole "booty" portfolio.  Now let's say we have what it takes to meet.  Do things change when I get off the plane, bus, car, or train?? Cause you was talkin' greasy to get my attention.   I mean it's cool to flirt to a point.  But then it gets lame if nothing is really going to happen.  Is it just a means to get attention and that's all.  If so can you knock it if a guy puts a "pee-pee" pic in your inbox.  He's just trying to get noticed just like you. 

            

         I also ask the question, is the woman as "friendly" with local men?  Cause for me, in NYC the sistas are real uptight with meeting.   Even though you might have seen a pic with their "boobies" out.  They will act shy (LOL).   Is that just eye candy to get me to your page or are you a freak lady?  Stop frontin' if you aren't and let the man appreciate who you really are.  You know us men will say some outlandish sh*t, especially on the net cause there's no real consequence.   So the 

point I'm making is this, are you just as friendly in person or just on the keyboard.

(Original Draft Jan. 11, 2008)

Substitution Jutsu (Myspace Re-Post)

I've notice a particular trend by some single ladies out there.  Some of my fellas may agree that they may date a woman for a particular amount of time.  All of a sudden she just falls off,  you aren't angry just confused why.  If you do get in contact with her,  you find out she's either gotten back with her ex or started dating someone she spoke to before she met you.   I call this the "substitution jutsu".  The term comes from the animated Naruto series on the  Cartoon Network.   Fellas be aware, most of the time you are just a temporary fix.   She's just killing time if she isn't really doing much socially.  So you might get caught up into taking her out or trying to get close.  However some ladies may say "I'm only looking for friends" if that's the case, go dutch.  So if she expects to pay like it's a date and cops an attitude.  Don't stress cause she's only a "friend".  Ladies like attention, even from guys they don't like.   Also make sure you engage her in convo about you and her.  Always know where you stand.  Is this the way of a gentleman, of course not.   But it does help weed out the bullshit.    Remember fellas, money you can get back, time you can't.


(Originally drafted Feb. 11, 2008)

Friend Or Acquaintance?

This blog is makes me wonder about how women truly see their male "friends".  As y'all know I really don't see men & women being friends like that unless under certain circumstances.  The thing is what if a woman you used to talk to or date ends up just being cool.  Now being that things have become platonic, y'all should be able to support each other in new relationships.  This would be the "logical" step, however I've noticed with some "friends" that this is the very opposite.  Some have wanted to keep tabs for their own particular reasons, some might be still interested.  Others might be a little jealous cause I have someone I care about.  The thing is I'm not going to treat anyone different due to being in a relationship.  Everyone knows I'm a music head, so when I expect support with an endeavor, why give me a bogus reason for not supporting?  Unless you was never really into me as a whole person.  Then for the most part you are an acquaintance, so we are only cool to a point.  Having deep conversations about fam & life is really not needed. I guess for myself I forgot not everyone is genuine on here even though we chop it up regularly?   I know why that is though, & it just shows some ladies illogical minds.   Just be genuine with me, I won't pass judgment I just might give you the sideways face though.