So I'm a fan of MTV's show Catfish. Let me explain the term: The person who assumes such a fake identity is known as a catfish. On the show Catfish, the host Nev & his partner Max help folks find their online "loves", Max starred in his own documentary in 2010 also called Catfish, in which he shares his experience about meeting someone who wasn't their profile. I'm guessing due to the advancement of social networking, being "catfished" is now more prevalent than ever. Now have I ever been "catfished" yes & no. I say that cause anyone who was pretending not to be themselves we never actually met. So have folks stopped using common sense now? I mean some of these folks on this show have spoken for years & never met. So I would be skeptical after a few months, especially if we claim to be serious. Have I been gassed up before? Yes, but that's only cause I ignored my conscience
So what happened to folks chatting up for a while and asking Age/Sex/Location? You always went into a chat with some skepticism. Why, cause some folks want to believe in the myth. They would rather believe the lie than find out the truth. The internet has allowed folks to run from their lives & make something online "real". I remember being on the chatrooms back in '98 & '99 and the vibe was so unknown. Meeting took some weeks before & if it sounded to good to be true usually it was. I think folks feel people have to be honest on Facebook. Even though the site tries to cite fake profiles, there's always a way to make a false profile. (Note: I'm FB friends with Black Dynamite) So why do folks think it's foolproof? The net is just as flawed (if not more) as society. There are folks just looking for attention. Others can't live with the life they have, so they decide to try to be Jessica Rabbit online with a bunch of stolen pics.
Well I'm here to help you out with a few tips (PAY ATTENTION!!!):
1. If this person is way too attractive & is complaining about being single, That's that bullsh*t or they might be just f*ckin' crazy. Crazy is never in season.
2, If all of your conversations revolve around their financials, that's the bullsh*t. You are either talking to an African hacker who needs money to get out of their country or someone straight hustling you. This can be male or female. If you that stupid, hope your pockets are deep.
3. Do they have issues meeting in public? Ask yourself "If this person can't meet me somewhere mutual, what the hell is the problem?" You might be dealing with a rapist, criminal, or the same sex who's trying to get over. I remember one time I met a young lady who met me in Queens & she said she was coming solo. She came with some dude who was sitting in the back seat of her car. I said "Word, let me call one of my peoples." She peeled out so fast. See what I mean.
4. Why am I meeting this person? Ask yourself that. Are you trying to make friends, date, find a "boo", or just get your sex on. Be honest with yourself, cause not everyone needs your time.
5. Be comfortable with who you are. So what you weight 300 lbs. or you got an overbite like barracuda. Be proud it makes you an individual. Don't try to use sexy adjectives to make yourself seem better & paint a picture that isn't you. Enjoy your skin & if you don't, change it.
6. Let someone know that you don't know this person. Always let someone in so they at least know you was out on a meet. I'm seeing too many white women missing cause they didn't tell their friend what was up.
7. Craiglist ain't sh*t, if you not buying a tv or a used VCR. Stop trying to find your spouse on there. Serial killers hang there.
Hopefully y'all pass this around & we don't go through 2014 with this phenomenon. Start thinking before you type of the keyboard folks.
