As you know I try not to be the common guy. I have simple pleasures that I enjoy, but I'm not simple-minded. So to get a somewhat understanding of whom I am. I continue this topic in order to show some more of my complexity. So let's continue from where we left off..
5) Fear Of Intellect - I think this is quite valid, now you might be saying to yourself "What woman fears a man with an intellect?". Let me explain, it doesn't mean the fear of an educated man. More of a fear of practical intelligence. I have a bullshit detector and I use it to the fullest. However sometimes I let a situation play out just to see where it's going. I like to know the level of b.s. that I'm actually dealing with. So if some ladies have stopped talking to me, it might be because I checked their b.s. Some also know this as "Game", now ladies know a man with game is quite lethal cause he knows what he wants & how to get it. Most times people think when you "run game" you are attempting to do something dishonest or sinister. It's actually the opposite, it's just to get a particular result through cooperation. Remember a man's game is only as good as his word & his character. So if a man ran game on you & it was for something bad chances are he was a bad guy all around. Not all men who have game are players either, some just learn from their dating experience like I did.
6) Lack Of Accountability - Alright ladies, now you do know for every action there are rewards & consequences. Some only acknowledge their rewards, and not the consequences. I've particularly seen this with past sexual history and/or past actions in their relationships with men or women. A lot of women hate to be embarrassed by past situations. Some don't accept what they have done & try to have an "out-of-sight, out-of-mind" method of dealing with their past. I've met young women who have done a whole host of reprehensible things yet act like nothing was wrong until I found out. The feeling of embarrassment kicks in then, now they hang their heads in shame or cut off communication with me. I don't pass judgment, but if you know you have done stupid or foul things, have the conviction to face them.
7) Lack Of Cooperation - Now ladies, first thing you need to give a man before your booty is cooperation. Realistically, this is how a relationship dynamic works. There has to be cooperation on both parts. If you as a woman are stuck on "I need, I want" type of vibe it's not going to fly. Cooperation lets a man know that you are at least down to give it a go and to respect his opinions. Also to respect his leadership as he assumes his natural role in the relationship. Remember if I'm the quarterback or point guard of this relationship, I need my running back or power forward to be on the same page when I run a play. Otherwise it results in a turnover & we lose the game in this case it's the relationship.
8) Effective Communication - A very overlooked quality by men, however ladies don't get it confused. To be a great communicator, you must be able to listen first. Talking is always easy, especially when you want to ramble on. However, do you really ask a man how he is doing or is that just to be polite? Remember if you are genuinely trying to get to know me, some days that means shutting up & opening your ears. Talk about stuff you have no interest in but really make an effort to have a vibrant conversation. You might surprise a guy if you listen to him talk about the NBA, cars, or even the last issue of King Magazine he read. It resonates as being sincere & actually caring about what he has to say. Ladies the definition of nagging is to annoy by constant faultfinding, complaints, or demands. That's no fun for us, and for the man with the lack of patience. You might end up getting hit. I remember one young lady started an argument with me, cause she didn't want to hear me talk. I admit I can ramble at times, but note this it's never about any bullshit. Now if I had been talking about BET or Wendy Williams, she would have been all ears. If you know me already I try not to get into what I call "Nigger Rhetoric". Just remember this quote about having a true conversation: "Are you truly listening, or just waiting for your turn to talk?"
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