Now ladies please understand this particular composition is about the type of women that wouldn't date me. I wrote this due to a lot of - women thinking because we are attracted to each other & have some things in common that we would make a great match. Being my mate is more than just a cute face, thick waist, & some sex. The things I value in a woman are much deeper, particularly in her character. Your body may go through changes, but your character is who you really are. If there are some character flaws, I don't care if you look like Halle Berry at 25. You gotta go for real. So this writing will give you an understanding of why I may have passed on us dating seriously or ever becoming something more than friends. If it hurts my apology in advance, but if you know me I've never been soft with my words. Be advised this isn't anger, it's just me giving you as a reader an understanding of where I'm coming from.
1) Independent Thinker - I try not to go along with popular opinion. Not to be difficult, it's just I can't co-sign anything I don't personally overlook myself. So even if the media is reporting it, some facts may be left out or the story is edited to get a particular response. I particularly analyze things Black Americans take as the "gospel" in media, pop culture, beliefs, fashion, etc. So if you as my woman at least can't respect my opinion or at least see the logic in my argument. You gotta go. Pretty much this is for the "slave mind" females who allow others to give their opinion about what you should do with yourself & having no true purpose for self.
2) Instant Dad - Not really looking to move into the ready-made father position. I would rather grow with a woman before having children because children can get attached or detest me if they have a bond with another male (i.e. their father or previous boyfriend). A lot of times there can be unnecessary drama with how the kids are being raised. Could I as a boyfriend really rein a child in that's not mine in the early stages of the relationship? Now you may be asking "Oh well you never really tried." just remember any respectable mother wouldn't have me meet her child without establishing a true relationship. Note, I say respectable because if the kids know mommy is really sexually active they will lose respect for you as time goes on. As a woman you can have a sex life, just not in front of the kids.
3) "I get along with males better." Excuse - GTFO with that nonsense. Now ladies you & I both know men & women don't hang like that, Now there are some legitimate reasons for having male friends, but if you're phone has like 200. You can't tell me all but 2 are real close, so the other 198 are trying to get at you. I can prove it, cause when a woman gets into a relationship all those male friends disappear. As an intelligent man I was attracted to some of my female friends but they didn't feel the same about me. Yet like a fool I stayed around thinking her feelings were going to change. I ask a woman questions about some of these so-called "friends" like "Was y'all always this close?" "Has he ever tried to sleep with you?". Just remember these questions are for women you are trying to make your girl or wife, not the jump-off. I will discuss the jump-off later. Also I feel if lady has too many male "friends" she's trying to be a player & her self-esteem constantly needs to be validated by having so many men after you. Not happening over here.
4) The "Good Time Girl" - Hey now I don't expect every woman to be a virgin or sexually naive but I don't want a woman with miles on her either. Some ladies may feel this is a double-standard because men get to be players & have multiple women. Now I don't pass judgment, but that's not a quality I want in a wife. There are also traits that women like this have such as recklessness, the ability to cause trouble, & a lack of focus. Sometimes their "living situations" are not on the up & up or their financial situation is in shambles. Yeah she's great to bring to the swing party or the gangbang. As a man do you want to wife up the chick who your homeboy & Rah from the block hit up last night? I doubt that. For the most parts I'm a square, so dealing with a woman who has bi-sexual issues, excessive sexual tattoos, or a straight up drunk don't work for me. Fellas would you introduce the "Good Time Girl" to your mom, NOT HAPPENING. Yes you can be a freak, but that can't be your best quality as a woman. If so you would need to find a man that can accept that, and it compliments him & the relationship. Especially if you are honest about your sexual exploits and he loves you anyway. That's a man you should marry, however with me nah buddy you can keep that.
This concludes part 1 but there is much more coming. Now ladies some of these traits I listed may not apply to you. That's why I will do a sequel cause there's a lot to read. So soak this up and enjoy. Leave comments too
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