The Respect Of Love

       First off I want to say props to all the folks really in love.  Not the folks just playing coy or settling.  I mean the stay by your bed, marry you in the living room kind of love.  We all have a different perception of what love is.  However I think we have a lack of respect for this emotion.  I use myself as a prime example, by taking the woman I've ever loved for granted. I think because love is such a common & abundant emotion, we just figure it's always going to be there.  However it's just like gas during Hurricane Sandy, limited.  There's a point where love can't help or it's totally exhausted.  I make the classic comparison of love to a flower.  When it's in bloom, it's the greatest thing, however it doesn't get there on it's own. There must be some form of nurturing & good conditions for it to grow.  As human beings it's easy to get complacent, especially in love.  Does love have to be threatened for folks to treasure it?    


       Maybe that's why some ladies fight with their man, just to create that feeling.  However it could backfire, whereas a man can just be fed up with all the bickering.  Are folks trying to substitute the lack of love in one area for another?  I've seen folks get into relationships just to heal themselves from another.  I was having a conversation with some folks & they talked about love, settling down, etc. & it just hit me that I'm at a point where if I fall in love, It's pretty much the real thing.  Now does this mean any female can come along, hell no.  I tend to think of myself as being a critical guy, especially in this internet dating age.  So out of respect for myself & love I take my time.  I'm fortunate to not get caught up in the age thing & feeling that I should be married or in a relationship by a certain age.  Isn't there a famous saying "Love has no bounds."  Therefore age is a boundary, so why be a slave to that?  I've just learned most recently that love needs to be tempered properly like steel.  Too much of this or too little of that can create something that doesn't last.  The thing is that there is no sure way of making love grow other than communication & listening.  After that it's a crap shoot.