Hey folk what's going on. Once again I'm focusing on a trend that I see that has gotten a little out of control. In particular folks borrowing or cloning their confidence from folks they idolize or listen to. Is it just me or have a lot of ladies read too many books & now base their entire social or dating habits based on what they have read. This era of self-help now just caters to the ego, thereby giving the reader temporary confidence. However when a situation that isn't "textbook" they all of a sudden don't know how to deal. Some folks base their confidence on something they have or possess aka "The Popeye Complex".
So now what happens when you are stripped of your magazines, cars, cool clothes, etc. The raw individual doesn't have much. Why is that? As human beings now I've noticed possessions have become more important than the soul. So now you have folk looking to amass a fortune than rather work on themselves. This is why you have celebs losing their damn minds. Sometimes for them their talent was enough to make them comfortable. They find solace in other things & reckless behavior to cope. The sad part is that average folks emulate these celebrities due to not feeling good about themselves. How many females got out of pocket with their boyfriends after Rihanna got into with Chris Brown. So many women think they identify with Rihanna, but in actuality they bond with the dysfunctional relationship she had. Some claim to understand the "abuse" she endured. How many of you ladies have gotten into a fight in a Lamborghini while checking your man's phone? You can relate somewhat, but let's been honest that's not your life. I'm guessing some folks need to live others' lives in order to make sense of their own. We call that "The Matrix"
A lot of men now are just as guilty of it. If you listen to their slang "Yo son I'm on my Jay-Z swag right now." That to me just screams you have no original confidence of your own. Too many men are looking to the rappers for how to dress, what to say, & even how to think. I'm not sure if you know this a lot of rappers don't make good choices. I mean would you trust Lil Wayne's fashion sense, or Rick Ross' choice in women to make the mother of his children? Hell no, so why put 100% trust in everything they say? Not everything you read on Twitter is a gem, some are just straight rocks or a quote they borrowed from someone else. What makes an individual is what you do in spite of. Not just going with the flow or defying they flow to be different. It's about creating something new entirely. As a man I had to learn to be myself & be truly comfortable with who I am. Yes I'm a fat dude who's opinionated, still eats beef, doesn't like Madea, & reads comics. In the end i learned some folks will get it, & others won't.
As a human being you have to know what you can & can't handle. I'm seeing folks egos get bruised on Facebook due to everyone telling them how fly they are. It's all bullshit cause in the end, can you really count on them. The amount of "yes men" out there is always high. It's your job as a "real" person to figure out what's real & what's fake. There's no textbook to tell you how to deal with the bullshit, cause it's a case-by-case basis. So Rihanna's bullshit isn't what Tyeisha from the Bronx is dealing with. Your craziness is just that YOUR CRAZINESS!!! Create your own "flyness" instead of looking for it in others.
Great summation: "Create your own "flyness" instead of looking for it in others." BOOM!
ReplyDeleteThis is so true there are far too many people out here that if they were left with just themselves to show to the world they would have nothing everything about them is created from what they read in a magazine, or saw in a music video. Sad part is most of these people are in their 30s and 40s and should have established who they really are and what they have to offer long ago what they have that is intangible is what should make them confident not some made up confidence from their favorite entertainer
ReplyDeleteI think being comfortable with yourself is what we are supposed to learn in our 20s. I believe the evolution of social media has allowed people to find this false confidence that you speak of. There has always been a celebrity influence, but the internet has turned it into something way worse. Instead of living their lives they are in their rooms trying to find an outfit for their newest instagram pic. The only way that this cloned confidence will die down is if people put the computers away a little bit longer each day. Good Post Sir!
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