Whassup people, as I sit here & write. I've noticed that some people who are dating or in the "getting to know you" stage are complaining quite a bit on Facebook, Twitter, Tagged etc. I think some people don't realize if they truly belong in a relationship or if they are just lonely. A lot of people are in relationship for the sake of having a relationship. It's kinda sad, because it shows a level insecurity. Who's to say that you are supposed to be in one, or that you have enough selflessness in your character to do so. Remember you have to be thoughtful and sometimes take yourself out of first-person & think about your mate. Here are some questions you can ask yourself to see if you are possibly an asset or liability:
1) What can I offer besides companionship?
2) If sex wasn't on the table, would this person still want to be with me?
3) Do I listen to my mate or just wait for my turn to talk?
4) Am I an actual fun person to be around when it's not time to be intimate?
5) Do I love myself?
6) How can I make my mate a better person & in turn myself a better person?
7) Can I be 100% honest, & respect my mate's honesty (even if it's negative)?
8) Did I really move on from my last relationship & am I ready for a new one?
9) Does my mate have a valid point when we argue?
10) Is change difficult for me?
11) Am I a glorified jump-off?
I think being honest with yourself and just speaking with your boo, mate, sweetie, etc. is key. However respect & listen to what they say. You might find out y'all need to break and just be friends or be nothing. At least you will be honest with each other
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